Who does what? When it comes to disciple making I find it extremely helpful to know who is supposed to do what? As an aside, I find this to be extremely helpful when it comes to preaching as well. I tend to ask these three questions in my preparation.
What is the Holy Spirit’s responsibility?
Always start here. Salvation and sanctification are the work of the Holy Spirit. We know that He loves to use us in the process, but it’s ultimately His work.
What is it that we need the Holy Spirit to do in this person’s life? Now, DO NOT try to do what the Holy Spirit is supposed to do. Trust that He will do what only He can do in this person’s life.
Asking this question and knowing the answer will prevent us from leading people into legalism, creating a co-dependent relationship, getting super frustrated, and blaming and shaming others.
What is my responsibility?
As the discipler, what is it that you need to do? First and foremost it’s to keep bringing people back to the Gospel. Listen to their statements and questions and find out where they are not believing the Gospel. Remind them of who they are in Christ. Remind them to continuously be filled with the Holy Spirit. Remind them that they exist to serve and bless others. Be there for them, pray for them, reach out to them, knowing full well that you are not the fixer, healer or redeemer.
What is their responsibility?
This is important and often needs to be stated clearly to those you are leading. They need to know that you expect them to be open to change and growth. They are alive in Christ and living things grow! They should be honest and open. They should ask questions. They should be open to input and show a level of maturity in receiving correction.
Knowing who does what in the discipleship process is fundamental. I’ve made many mistakes over the years, but have found that many of those mistakes were because there weren’t clear expectations of who was supposed to do what.